The Empowerment Effect
Starts With Me!
STEP 1: START WHERE YOU ARE
THE ROAD TO ‘THERE’ MUST START ‘HERE’!
Take a good look around you.
What does your ‘here’ look like right now?
Explore your ‘here’ in terms of your Health, Wealth and Happiness to get an overall picture of your starting point.
Write it all down.
You’ll need this information again.
Don’t sugar-coat anything.
Don’t be tempted to catastrophise either.
Simply state the facts so that you have a clear picture of your starting point.
Because the road to ‘there’ must start ‘here’.
STEP 2: CREATE YOUR VISION
YOUR VISION THE FUEL THAT KEEPS YOU GOING.
In an ideal world, what kind of person would you BE?
Think about qualities you recognise and admire in other people.
In an ideal world, what would you DO?
Imagine how you would spend your time if you had no limits.
In an ideal world, what would you HAVE?
Create a mental picture of the relationships, possessions, money, connections you would enjoy in your ideal world.
Now that you have designed your ideal world, you have a vision!
And your vision is the fuel that keeps you going!
STEP 3: ACKNOWLEDGE THE GAPS
NO BLAME SHAME OR GUILT. ACCEPT WHAT IS.
Make a list of everything that’s stopping you getting from your ‘here’ to your vision.
Everything you feel is missing from your life right now.
This is NOT an invitation to indulge in a pity party!
You are NOT going to BLAME anyone – especially yourself.
You are NOT going to SHAME anyone – especially yourself!
You are NOT going to lay GUILT on anyone – especially yourself.
You are simply and honestly going to state the FACTS about what is standing between you and your vision.
No blame, shame, or guilt.
Accept what is.
STEP 4: FIND YOUR STRENGTHS
BE AS KIND AS YOU WOULD BE FOR ANYONE ELSE.
Because we’re all human, we tend to find it easier to acknowledge our faults than to mention the good aspects of ourselves – and we all have good aspects.
Every perceived weakness, fault, defect, lack or limitation you named in Step 3 has the potential to become a powerful force for positive transformation.
A highly effective and revealing way to find your strengths is to write your own eulogy
What would you say about yourself?
What would you tell the mourners that the world would miss about you?
What stories would you share?
What would you like written on your headstone?
Remember to be as kind as you would for anyone else.
STEP 5: IGNITE YOUR PASSION
YOUR PASSION IS THE SPARK THAT WILL DRIVE YOU ON
Who is your hero?
What do you admire about your hero?
What motivates you?
What brings you joy?
What makes you lose track of time?
Where does your mind go when it wanders?
What makes you feel alive?
What fires you up?
What drives you on?
What’s your big WHY?
Your passion is the spark that will drive you on!
STEP 6: LOVE YOURSELF FIRST
HEALTHY SELFISHNESS IS ESSENTIAL!
For many of us, Step 6 is the most challenging!
Were you taught to always put other people’s needs ahead of your own?
Did you learn that taking pride in your own achievements was a bad thing?
Have you compromised your own boundaries to accommodate other people?
In any give and take relationship, are you the one doing most of the giving?
You’re not alone BUT in order to be able to help others we all simply must look after ourselves first.
Like they tell you in those pre-flight videos nobody watches, lifejacket on first.
You are of no use to anyone if you you’re drowning!
Healthy selfishness is essential!
STEP 7: TAKE BABY STEPS
IF YOU HAVEN’T GIVEN UP, YOU’RE STILL MOVING FORWARD.
Too often we beat ourselves up for not progressing faster.
You set unrealistic expectations and then berate yourself for falling short?
And then we give up!
You tell yourself it was too hard.
You don’t have what it takes.
You’re not smart/strong/educated/rich etc enough.
You forget that baby steps are still steps!
Progress is progress!
You only fail when you stop trying!
If you haven’t given up, you’re still moving forward!
STEP 8: KEEP ON KEEPING ON
THE EMPOWERMENT EFFECT IS A LIFELONG PRACTICE.
Our world, our bodies, our lives are in a constant state of change.
Nothing is the same as it was yesterday, or last month or 20 years ago.
Tomorrow will be different to today.
We don’t really notice the subtle changes, but the sudden upheavals can leave us feeling unsettled and lost.
When life inevitably throws a curve ball at you, it’s important to stay as grounded and balanced as possible.
If you get thrown off course, adjust your sails and keep going.
If you fall off the horse, get back in the saddle and ride on as quickly as you can!
Everything changes all the time.
Every day is a school day!
The Empowerment Effect is a lifelong practice.
STEP 9: SHARE THE LOVE
NOTHING IS SUPPOSED TO BE PERFECT!
If you only learn one thing from The Empowerment Effect 101 I hope you learn to fully embrace the Mantra of Step 9.
Trial and error are fundamental components of progress.
The aim of The Empowerment Effect is to transform the world from the inside out – one beautiful soul at a time.
That global inside-out transformation has to start at an individual level and every single person can contribute.
If we all wait until we feel ready it will never happen.
As adult humans we are not perfect.
We are not designed to be perfect.
Even if we arrived in this world totally perfect, life knocked a few corners off us as we grew up.
We’re all a bit bruised and battered.
But that doesn’t matter.
You can still live your best bruised and battered life.
You can recognise your true bruised and battered value.
You can still reach your full bruised and battered potential.
And you can still share the love and play an integral role in the Empowerment Effect and help transform the world from the inside out.
Because nothing is supposed to be perfect!
If you enjoyed and benefitted from THE EMPOWERMENT EFFECT 101 FREE COURSE I hope you will SHARE THE LOVE and pass it on if that feels appropriate.
There is always more to learn!